Dr. Moon Kitty Advice Column #6: Finding Motivation to Get Things Done

July 16, 2020

Dr. Moon Kitty Advice Column #6: Finding Motivation to Get Things Done

Hello Wig Lovers!

Today’s letter comes from Sarah in Franklin, NC, who asks: Why can’t I find the motivation to get things done right now? Every little thing feels way harder to do lately and I’m worried that I’m getting depressed.

Hi Sarah!

First of all—as I’ve mentioned in a previous post, right now is a really wonky time in the world where there are lots of things going on that we haven’t necessarily dealt with before. Along with that comes levels of uncertainty, discomfort, and sometimes even fear. We are bombarded with media about the pandemic and violence all around us. So the first thing I want you to do is take a deep breath and remind yourself that you are still here and doing ok. And the second thing I want you to do is give yourself a damn break. For many of us, our daily lives are a rat race to begin with, and this pandemic and social distancing has added a layer of the unknown onto an already stressful situation. It would be even weirder if we weren’t affected by all this.

Accepting that you may be affected by not having your usual comforts (including places and people that would normally make up your surroundings) is A-Ok. And feeling a little off-kilter because the world isn’t as structured as it might have felt a few months ago is also ok.  One thing that I hope you will do is keep track of the things during the day that you DO accomplish. Take 20 minutes in the morning and write a short list of all of the little things that you’ve done. And don’t short-change yourself. Did you get out of bed? Take a shower? Brush your teeth and put on your wig? Take out the garbage? Throw a load of laundry in? Write it down! We are sometimes so used to doing all of these little things while also juggling jobs and kids and social obligations that we lose sight of the fact that we are doing A LOT.

Another consideration (that goes along with giving yourself a break) is really determining if all of those things you want to accomplish are absolutely necessary today. Is it ok for you to exercise a little less than normal? Yes. Not make complex meals? We can all survive off mac n cheese or pb and j for a bit without any long-term negative effects.  Try to prioritize the things in your day that really MUST be done and give yourself a break from feeling overwhelmed if you don’t get all of the other small stuff done too. 80% still counts. And don’t forget to prioritize the most important thing of all—your own mental and physical health!

Having said that, depression can be a serious mental health issue, and if you find that you are completely losing the ability to find joy in things that you used to love doing (this is called anhedonia), sleeping way more than usual (more than 10 hours a day), having irregular eating habits (not eating or stress-eating), or reacting emotionally toward others in a way that is really negatively affecting your relationships, it might be time to set up a tele-therapy session with someone professional. If this feels like something you can’t handle without extra help, sometimes medication and talk therapy, even in the short-term, can be really beneficial.

I hope this helps. I know there are lots of people struggling right now, but remember, as always—you are not alone. We are all here struggling beside you. And we’ll make it through all of this together.

Until next time. Signing off,

Dr. Moon Kitty





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